10 Things Children CAN Learn

“You’re too young.”

“Don’t touch that.”

“You don’t understand yet.”

“You’ll be able to do that some day.”

As a parent of two small children, these words are said very often in our house. Of course, we are trying to help our children grow and mature, but there are certain things that are dangerous, or that are truly too hard for them at this point.

However, children can still learn! While there may be a long list of things children cannot yet do, there is a long list of things they can do and learn!

Here is a starter:

1. Children can learn love. I try to tell my children “I love you” often. That phrase is probably said in our house more often than any other (except, maybe “No!”). By hugs, kisses, words, discipline, and time our children learn the concept of love. If we want them to know that God loves them, we had better teach them the concept of love early.

2. Children can learn service. Just yesterday, Leah took our kids to visit an older couple. The kids had helped make some muffins the evening before and then delivered them. Learning to give something away will stick with them. Children can learn that they aren’t the center of the universe. If we want them to serve God, we had better teach them to serve.

3. Children can learn to pray. Who cares if they thank God for the napkins 11 times in the same prayer? They are learning that God hears and cares. In fact, I wish I prayed like a child more often. Remember to teach your children “how” to pray as well as “TO pray.” Teach them it is important by letting them “catch” you praying. Pray at meals. Pray when you hear some bad news. Let the children have a part in the prayers, but let them speak in a child-like language. It’s okay!

4. Children can learn to honor parents. If you and your mate are always arguing, what makes you think your children will respect you or your spouse? Never talk down to your spouse, but make a special effort to avoid that in front of children! Do your best to always speak well of your mate in front of the children.

5. Children can learn boundaries. Yes, discipline is needed! God gives many reminders to parents to discipline children. It is needed for them to learn to obey God and also to avoid danger. While no parent is perfectly consistent, moving the boundaries only confuses a child. Be as consistent as you can be.

6. Children can learn Bible facts and stories. It’s sad that a lot of children know more about Sesame Street than about Noah’s Ark! It shows where time is spent. Parents, please don’t just leave it up to the Bible school!!! Take time to teach simple facts, songs, and stories to your children. If you need resources to help you, contact a faithful Christian bookstore (Mars Hill, Gospel Advocate, 21st Century Christian, or the FHU bookstore are good places to start).

7. Children can learn materialism. You knew there had to be some negative lessons on here, right? If all we ever talk about is money and “stuff,” our children are going to grow up thinking that money makes the world go ’round. Be very selective in how many “things” you give a child and also how many commercials he or she sees. Teach them the value of a dollar and how to enjoy simple things in life.

8. Children can learn to worship. My friend Andy Kizer says that he believes there’s a special place in heaven for mothers of small children. I agree! Dads, if you aren’t leading in worship that day, help mom with the kids. If  you are, pray that your wife will teach your children not just to sit still, but also to realize what is going on. Moms, you have a wonderful task! Teach discipline in worship, but also make sure you explain what is going on as best you can. What a gift to a child!

9. Children can learn to lose enthusiasm. I love the enthusiasm children have. When they hear about David and Goliath, their eyes light up. It’s the greatest thing they’ve ever heard! Sadly, over time, we get the “I’ve heard that before” face and we don’t seem interested in Bible truth (or in service, or in giving, etc.). Children see…and learn.

10. Children can learn to be friendly. Sure, some kids are shy. Some are just open to everyone. Friendliness isn’t just about talking to everyone, though. I’m so proud of parents who take a shy child and still help him give a hug or say “hello.” That child will learn to smile, even if shy.

What else would you add?