4 Things We Put Before Our Families…And Shouldn’t

If you were to poll the readers (all 17 of you) of this blog, you would find that they could list their priorities in a way that would be God-honoring. I think every “regular” reader would state that God and His Kingdom come first, and that family comes next. Then, you might see some diversity, as some might list work, while others might list friends, while other might say their health, and so on.

Families are so important, and we have them 2nd on our list. Sadly, we too often treat them like they are 4th or 5th (or far worse). What amazes me is how common the list is of things many people put before their families that should be much further down the list.

Here are just 4.

1. Our Careers. Christians are to work hard, and are to provide for their families. I love my job, and I hope people see that joy, but also that I work hard at what I try to do. However, my job is not more important than my family. When we continually work overtime (even unpaid overtime!) to get a project done, but miss our kids’ ball game or band concert, that shows where our priorities are. Have you had to cancel dates with your spouse because you “just had to” make that next meeting or visit? Which will matter more in the long run?

2. Our Hobbies. I’m all for hobbies. Having a diversion from life is a good thing, and sometimes those hobbies can even become sources of extra income that help in tight economic times. However, far too many of us spend so much on our hobbies–both in time and money–that we are putting them before our families. I know plenty of guys who “wouldn’t miss” their next golf outing, but they will miss their daughter’s recital or their son’s next game. Many can’t wait for the opening of another hunting season, but they could care less about opening night of their child’s play. Which will matter more?

3. Our Money. Far too many parents work long hours, or just spend money like crazy, all to have more for themselves. It is amazing how they are trying to teach their kids to be unselfish, but they themselves are living a selfish life. It’s nice to have cash, but your spouse is more important. It’s nice to have a 401(k) that’s funded, but wouldn’t you rather have time at the park or zoo with your kids?

4. Ourselves. There are too many homes that are nothing more than houses where two or more individuals live, instead of a place where a real family lives. There is a difference. In a real family, people look out for each other and are serving one another. But when all I want is what I want, and that’s the way it has to be, then I am putting “me” before the family. Such is not only destructive, it is wrong.

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Each of us needs to look at our lives and see what we really have in our priority list. What we say is important, but how do you live? What really goes first?

Will you make that next ball game? Will you play Candyland (and probably lose)? Will you watch that movie with your spouse? Will you be there to teach the Bible to your kids tonight?

…or will you be more concerned with that next project at work?

Which is more important?