A Christian Young Person’s Letter to A Future Spouse
To the One I Already Love,
I am your future spouse. Somewhere, a family is raising me to love God supremely and to strive to be holy. They understand that I am not perfect, but they are correcting me and helping me grow in my faith, so that I can be prepared to face the world and not shun my walk with God.
But, they are also preparing me for you.
From a young age, they have taught me about marriage, both in their words and in their example. They aren’t perfect parents–and I’m sure yours aren’t either–but they try to show me what it means to put God first in a marriage. They argue at times, but they always are clear about how they love one another, how they esteem one another, and how they are still crazy in love with one another. (That part is a little weird at times, but, to be honest, it makes me feel good that daddy and mommy still love each other that much.)
Also, along the way, they are teaching me about sex. They are helping me to know what a gift from God it is, and why He would reserve this gift only for marriage. I have to admit, I’m curious about it, but they are helping me do my best to keep myself pure in what I watch and listen to and, also, in how I present myself to the world. I am tempted at times to look at others in a way that is wrong, but I want to save those looks for you and only you…my future spouse.
And that’s why I’m writing this. Can I ask you to do something for me? I don’t know who you are yet, but I know that, one day, God will bring us together in His providence and we will be husband and wife. We will enjoy marriage, and we will get to experience the blessing of intimacy with one another. I know that you are saving yourself for that time, as well, and I thank you for that.
But here is where I need you to help our future marriage. Please do not just save the act of sexual intimacy for our marriage. I am doing my best to present myself to the world in a manner that is chaste and pure. That, to me, is more than just, well, “the act” itself. I want you, my future spouse, to be the first to see my body in that vulnerable way.
In thinking about you, I cover myself and I do not put my body on display for others. I am not just saving my virginity for you; I am saving much more. Don’t get me wrong: I like to dress well, and I want to look fashionable (I hope I’m always that way for you!). But no one, until it is time for us to come together in marriage, will have seen more of my body than they should, if I can help it at all.
I am asking you to do the same. Future spouse, will you save more than just “the act” for me? I don’t want to be the second…or third…or thousandth (with social media pictures) to see your body. I want to be the first. I want to know that, as Scripture says, your body is mine, and vice versa. I don’t want to think about how many others have seen your body before. I want to be able to know that we have fully kept ourselves, in both action and presentation, for this life together.
I will do my best, and I am asking you to do the same for me. I always love you enough to do this for you. Do you love me enough to do the same?
In Loving Admiration,
Your Future Spouse
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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn
