Book Review: "What Every Family Needs"

One of my goals each year is to be a better husband and dad. I want to do the best possible job in these roles, but that takes work. One way to help is to read on the subject every so often.

Carl Brecheen and Paul Faulkner’s What Every Family Needs is a classic that every parent should read (and, probably, more than once). The 12 chapters are short, but powerful. It seems to me that the book can also be read from several perspectives. There is a sense in which the book is filled with psychology and sociology that will help the dynamic of the family from an almost totally mental place. But, there is also a sense in which the book is filled with practical suggestions for you to try in your own home.

One of the best things about the book is that it places on each parent (and, then, on the parents together) a sense of duty and responsibility. “Passing the buck” is not allowed! Each parent, whether in the role of parent or spouse, is asked several times to evaluate himself or herself and to improve areas that need adjustment.

I found the final chapter, entitled “We Will Make It Work,” to be interesting. The chapter has several short sections, some of which could be their own chapter. By combining all of them into one chapter, though, this section seems to be one powerful punch after another. There are many good suggestions in this chapter.

Personally, I feel that both mom and dad should read this book. It might be a good idea to read it together, or one to read it and then the other. It, no doubt, will lead to some discussion. It might also be a good volume for married couples to read before they have children. The book is honest about the joys and the difficulties of raising children.

The book can be ordered from any Christian bookstore, or can be found online for less than $5 (see ad below).