Marriage
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Fighting for Your Marriage Sometimes Means Fighting Yourself
We often hear people talking about “fighting for your marriage.” What is typically meant by that is a willingness to do something vital like going to counseling or even moving to get away from a dangerous situation. It usually means that we are willing to do something that is uncomfortable because we know the marriage is worth it. However, too often, one partner is not willing to fight himself/herself to save a marriage. Or, at least, that partner is not willing to fight all the way through. To save a marriage, anything that is standing in the way of a strong marriage should be on the table. For example, if…
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Episode 157: 5 New Year’s Resolutions for Your Marriage [Podcast]
https://media.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/content.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/Legacy_Podcast_157.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: RSS(Player not displaying or working? Click here to listen.) Lots of people make resolutions for fitness or work or finances. But Adam and Leah want to give you five areas of your marriage where you may want to consider making resolutions also. Those areas are: Date nights Investing in your marriage Planning “big” outings Doing things without the kids Understanding each other’s goals and priorities. For each area, Adam and Leah also share how to write these as true goals, and not just aspirations. Find our podcast on… Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Spotify Stitcher TuneIn Radio RSS
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When Failure Comes
Failure isn’t something we like to talk about. Actually, it isn’t even something we like to think about, but failure comes to all of us. Some failures are more damaging than others, but all failure has some consequences. Sometimes, those consequences are life changing, and at other times they don’t really impact our lives for very long. Our brother in Christ, Mark Posey, writes a post entitled “A Moment on the Road Less Traveled.” It gets my attention because it causes me to think about my favorite poem by Robert Frost. Mark’s thoughts are short, but impactful. Recently he wrote a post entitled, “How to turn failure into success.” There were…
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Episode 155: 5 Things We Wish We Would Have Known about Marital Intimacy [Podcast]
https://media.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/content.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/Legacy_Podcast_155.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: RSS (Player not displaying or working? Click here to listen.) For the past few episodes, Adam and Leah have been doing lists of 5. On this episode, they tackle a very sensitive but important topic, sharing 5 things couples need to keep in mind as it pertains to having a healthy and God-honoring life of intimacy. The 5 Things It’s Not Always a “10.”Medical and hormonal issues can greatly affect intimacy.Typically, one spouse needs to destress to have sex and one needs sex to destress.It can be difficult to overcome the world’s wrong message about sex.Over time, you need to learn from your…
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Episode 154: 5 Things We Wish We’d Have Known About NOT Living Separate Lives [Podcast]
https://media.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/content.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/Legacy_Podcast_154.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: RSS (Player not displaying or working? Click here to listen.) Far too many married couples wonder why they feel more like roommates or business partners than spouses. On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah talk about some things spouses must do intentionally if they are going to avoid living separate lives and, instead, live as a unit. The Five Things Don’t be with “the boys” or “the girls” more than you are with your spouse.Don’t let your careers define you.Combine your finances.Find common interests/hobbies.Spend more time at home. Find our podcast on… Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Spotify Stitcher TuneIn Radio RSS
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I Am An Elder’s Wife
It happened again Sunday morning as soon as we arrived at the church building. We are always among the first to arrive at the building. Our sound room man asked Jim about his PowerPoint for his Bible class that morning. As Jim headed for the sound room, one of our deacons called out to him from the other end of the auditorium with a question. I saw it once again with my own two eyes – he was being pulled in two different directions while his mind was on the material he would soon be teaching in the auditorium. May I share with you what it is like to be married to a…
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Episode 153: 5 Things We Wish We’d Have Known About Staying Connected (Podcast)
https://media.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/content.blubrry.com/faughnfamily/Legacy_Podcast_153.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: RSS (Player not displaying or working? Click here to listen.) With their second list of 5, Adam and Leah talk about how it can be easy to think you’ll stay connected in a marriage, but how it must be intentional. (If you missed the first episode in this series, which dealt with finances, here’s the link.) The Five Things Continue to Make Dating a PriorityUse Technology to Your Advantage (you should stay connected with your spouse more than anyone else…and you can even flirt!)Share a Common CalendarKnow Each Other’s Love Language and His/Her Needs [Amazon affiliate links]Don’t Live Two Separate Lives (which will…
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Dealing With “Secret Sin”
One of the most challenging lyrics we ever sing is in the song “Purer In Heart, O God.” Near the end of that song, we sing these words: “Keep me from secret sin; reign Thou my soul within.” Those are very easy (and beautiful) words to sing, but when I truly let my mind contemplate what is coming from my mouth, I have to ask myself if I really mean those words. When we think of “secret sin,” we could talking about actions that no one else knows about, such as a gambling problem or pornography addiction, or we would be talking about sins of our attitude, such as jealousy,…
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A Tell-Tale Sign of Marriage Problems
Since I am a preacher, it will not surprise you that, from time-to-time, couples come to me asking for some help. In my experience, it is usually more “informal,” where we just talk about something in a casual conversation. There are times, though, when a couple wants to meet for “counseling” (I use quotation marks because I am not a formal, licensed counselor). I am always nervous about these meetings, but glad to try to help where I can. Typically, I do a whole lot more listening than talking. It is in this listening that one clear sign of marital problems often emerges. In fact, as I’m writing this, I…
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Broken Things
While dusting a decorative plate the other day I was reminded of something that took place several years ago. We crossed paths with a family in a most unusual way. There were six of them – a father and mother and their two children, and an aunt and uncle to the children. They were traveling west on their way home from a vacation and the uncle of this family had hurt his back so they were at one of our local hospitals. It was determined that he needed to be admitted for treatment and possible surgery. As the case often is when traveling home, they didn’t have enough money for the…
